Finding the Right Match With Online Dating

So you plucked up the courage, shed the nerves and the beads of sweat, and asked your lucky lady to go out with you, whether it was via online dating chatting or in person.  Congratulations!  Wipe that sweaty brow and give yourself a pat on the back.  Now, assume a look of fear, because what I’m about to tell you may be shocking.  That wasn’t the hard part!

As tough as the initial asking may be, the real test is the date itself.  So many guys make the mistake of thinking, “Well, she came out with me, so I don’t have to put in any more effort!”  Let me just sum it up for you by saying:  that is so, so wrong.  This is even more so the case if you were singles online dating and that’s how you met.

Generally, unless you are playing it cool and embarking on some greatly physical or messy activities (i.e. a lot of walking on a beach or in a rainforest, paintball, skydiving even!) then you should stick to the tried and true “confident guy” wardrobe:  jeans or slacks, a T-shirt that is either plain or expresses the real you (e.g. a band that you like) and a jacket if weather appropriate.

So, first of all, consider the activities you will be undertaking.  If you opted for a traditional dinner-and-a-show theme for the evening, then you should dress smartly but not too formal – aka, a full on tux is not acceptable unless you are going to a dress up party or a wedding (neither of which would be advisable on a first date anyway!).

And don’t think that you’re “too cool” to put the thought into it, because, in fact, from this point, you should be going the extra mile to make the effort (especially if you haven’t met in person before and you found her in online dating chat rooms) because now that she’s out with you, you’ve got to convince her that she wants to stay there!