Honey, I’m Still Free

We could go dancing, we could go walking, as long as we’re together.  ABBA said it best:  “If you change your mind, I’m the first in line.”  How to deal with having a crush on a friend is something we have all battled at some point in our lives.  Whether it was a childhood crush, a stark realization in junior high or a fully fledged thing on a colleague in your job, we have all wanted to “leave it there, afraid of a love affair.”  Even online singles struggle with this for dateing!

But I think you know, that sometimes, you can’t let go.

In fact, it always seems the very best relationships were the ones that started as friends first, particularly if you get to know them properly if you have an online dating friendship that moves to an online dating romance.   The problem is, how do you take that initial leap of faith to say to someone you are that close to that you have actually fallen for them?  The prospect of going from being a friend, even a close friend, to something else can be terrifying.  But too often the fear of losing what we have can stop us from taking a chance on finding something even better.

Life is all about taking chances.  Love, even more so.  A betting man may be able to explain why better than I can, but all I see people doing when it comes to risks of the heart is playing it safe and sticking with the chips they’ve got.  None of what I’m saying here should be applied to free online dating sites or free online dating services, because dating international with supposed online singles can be slightly complicated.

No matter what we do, there will always be risk when it comes to a relationship.  You shouldn’t torture yourself with what might have been, trying to put on a happy face for the friend you have actually fallen for.  Who knows, they might actually be feeling the same way!

If they do, saying something could turn the whole situation into something great.  If they don’t, you just remember what your friendship means to you, and that won’t change.